No Regrets? An Impossibility....

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Turtle Love wrote:

Hi again sis!
I have one more question. I did something that I feel i'd probably regret in the days to come...What do i do?

How should one deal with regrets?

Hehehe...pasensya na sis, medyo serious ang questions ha? hihihi....i'm in a serious mood eh! hahaha! naniniwala ka ba? *wink*

Thank you!

love ya,
Turtle Love

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Dear Turtle Love,

You have 4 questions. Here's my take after a week of "meditation" .....

I did something that I feel i'd probably regret in the days to come...What do i do?

I answer with another question- is that act something that can be rectified? Or something that cannot be undone?

What the heck.... you have decided to act. There's a probability its for the best or for the worst. But you have the guts to act, not brood... congratulations!

How should one deal with regrets?

(While waiting in line at an FX station in Manila, I typed a nonsensical enumeration in my cellphone's note....)

a) Accept you do have regrets and can't do anything to erase it in your life's story

b) Learn from your regrets.
Do an autopsy on your regrets (this maybe painful, but we do need to face the music.)

c) Rant it all out to get it out of your system
Tell a very dependable friend about it, blog it (like I do sometimes, hehehe....), shout it out if
you want to. Bottled feelings on regrets may be harmful to the psyche. So its better for the
whole world to know your regrets? RIGHT!

d) Forgive yourself
Remember that everyone living has regrets (As every home or any building have insects
lurking inside even if there's pest control).

e) Move on to make lesser regrets
Don't wallow in "what ifs" and "what should have beens". After the painful self- "regret
autopsy", you could point out in "replay" your weakness that lead to that regret. Next time,
you'll know how to decide well.... toward happiness and fulfillment.

Hehehe...pasensya na sis (in english, be patient, sis) medyo serious ang questions ha? (translation: my questions are quite serious, huh?)

It's ok, Turtle Love. Serious stuff are quite insane....

hihihi....i'm in a serious mood eh! hahaha! naniniwala ka ba? (translation: do you believe?)*wink*

Of course, I believe you are serious! Your request is serious. So sorry dispensing took so long... I have to exorcise myself from my own serious mood to be insane. Thank goodness, I got the cold virus.... got me back from my "preferred" state....

REGRETS ARE GOOD FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH. DON'T LET SOME OVER-OPTIMISTIC, "FLOATING IN THE CLOUDS" GURU TELL YOU OTHERWISE.

YET EVEN GOOD STUFF IS LETHAL IN TOXIC LEVELS. WALLOW, ACCEPT, LEARN, MOVE ON..... (TO OTHER WORTHWHILE REGRETS?)

Insanely yours,

Aleck, Insane Druggist