WHEN SHOULD WE USE THE HEART FIRST?
The insanity pharmacy is becoming my "queer eye for myself" shop !
In an act of desperation, I began seeking out patients needing insanity pills. This week, I finally found someone who is not in her right mind (just kidding a little, sis!) .
Here's her question (sent at aleck_dabest@yahoo.com):
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Hi sis!
One always gets this advice that the mind should rule over the heart right?
Hi, Turtlelove!
This is a tall order, sis! But an order it is.... You had 2 questions:
a) One always gets this advice that the mind should rule over the heart right?
You are right. Though coming from well-meaning people, this advice has been given too often!
Hmmm.. if the mind should always be followed, why do we have a heart in the first place? (doctors would say a heart helps blood circulation but its a literal answer)
Also, if mind rules over heart always... love would be oh, so predictable. Love is at its best when its eccentric. Which takes us to your next query....
b) In what instances do you think should we let ourselves do the opposite which is to follow our heart instead of our mind?
Love doesn't not have set rules, as some books boldly claim.
Frankly, when I got your question, I was scratching my head and muttering, " Love is really my scourge! (that's another post altogether...)".
But I'll try to dispense some helpful (theoretical) pills for your dilemma.
You can let your heart rule over your head :
a) When you need some experience for your "love resume"
Your data will be dull if you let rationalizations ruin your fun, esp. your first "experience". If you let emotions rein free, you would have a swashbuckling tale to tell!
Just remember... you have a brain that you can use from time to time. Use it when you feel too intoxicated.
b) After you have done the necessary "tests"
Does he have an updated NBI clearance? have you checked his civil status at your fave Census? Did you pray to your favorite saints for a sign? have you checked his friendster, myspace, flickr, blogspot, etc. for possible pet peeves and other passions (like car-worship!)
If all's clear... try your "heart" out!
But do some more snooping to make sure...
c) If you're starting to notice that your world is reacting negatively to ALL your LOVE prospects!
Girl, you have to wonder... WHY DOES YOUR LOVE LIFE SOLICIT THE ADVICE, "mind over feeling"?
Think, think, think.... is it because people don't like your taste in men, not the man himself? or is it because you have a poor "suitable man radar"?
If the answer is the 1st one, by all means, use your heart. Feel being loved and ah, being hurt because you loved. If you answered the latter, hmmm... that's a problem I had to read more on.
Its your life anyway. And life without experiencing the downside is not living at all! (be prepared to cry and laugh at the same time, though.)
d) After you use your head..... (the surest way)
But don't use this option too much... you're stifling spontaneity! What's romance without a little unpredictability?
e) When you're 6 feet under.... (bah, humbug!)
But you're alive, sis! As Morrie shared in "Tuesdays with Morrie", soak yourself in the immediate emotion... then let go.... detach yourself (if you need to let go, that is).
Love may be the grandest, happiest feeling.... but it can also be a painful and confusing experience. Immerse yourself in this feeling.... yes, use your heart more often! Live and let live... Love and let it all in! But during lulls, go to your brain.
Your heart and brain work together... not only physiologically, but also in man's interplay with other people's feelings and ways of thinking!
If one is absent... we'll surely DIE!
Hope tis will keep you unbalanced (hehehe....)
Insanely yours,
Aleck
P.S. Pls. send my regards to Princess Lulu and Kim San Soon! :)
In an act of desperation, I began seeking out patients needing insanity pills. This week, I finally found someone who is not in her right mind (just kidding a little, sis!) .
Here's her question (sent at aleck_dabest@yahoo.com):
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Hi sis!
One always gets this advice that the mind should rule over the heart right?
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------In what instances do you think should we let ourselves do the opposite which is to follow our heart instead of our mind?
I just need some enlightenment on this matter (with winking
smiley... sorry it didn't want to go in this dangerous territory - aleck)...Thank you!
love,
Turtlelove
Hi, Turtlelove!
This is a tall order, sis! But an order it is.... You had 2 questions:
a) One always gets this advice that the mind should rule over the heart right?
You are right. Though coming from well-meaning people, this advice has been given too often!
Hmmm.. if the mind should always be followed, why do we have a heart in the first place? (doctors would say a heart helps blood circulation but its a literal answer)
Also, if mind rules over heart always... love would be oh, so predictable. Love is at its best when its eccentric. Which takes us to your next query....
b) In what instances do you think should we let ourselves do the opposite which is to follow our heart instead of our mind?
Love doesn't not have set rules, as some books boldly claim.
Frankly, when I got your question, I was scratching my head and muttering, " Love is really my scourge! (that's another post altogether...)".
But I'll try to dispense some helpful (theoretical) pills for your dilemma.
You can let your heart rule over your head :
a) When you need some experience for your "love resume"
Your data will be dull if you let rationalizations ruin your fun, esp. your first "experience". If you let emotions rein free, you would have a swashbuckling tale to tell!
Just remember... you have a brain that you can use from time to time. Use it when you feel too intoxicated.
b) After you have done the necessary "tests"
Does he have an updated NBI clearance? have you checked his civil status at your fave Census? Did you pray to your favorite saints for a sign? have you checked his friendster, myspace, flickr, blogspot, etc. for possible pet peeves and other passions (like car-worship!)
If all's clear... try your "heart" out!
But do some more snooping to make sure...
c) If you're starting to notice that your world is reacting negatively to ALL your LOVE prospects!
Girl, you have to wonder... WHY DOES YOUR LOVE LIFE SOLICIT THE ADVICE, "mind over feeling"?
Think, think, think.... is it because people don't like your taste in men, not the man himself? or is it because you have a poor "suitable man radar"?
If the answer is the 1st one, by all means, use your heart. Feel being loved and ah, being hurt because you loved. If you answered the latter, hmmm... that's a problem I had to read more on.
Its your life anyway. And life without experiencing the downside is not living at all! (be prepared to cry and laugh at the same time, though.)
d) After you use your head..... (the surest way)
But don't use this option too much... you're stifling spontaneity! What's romance without a little unpredictability?
e) When you're 6 feet under.... (bah, humbug!)
But you're alive, sis! As Morrie shared in "Tuesdays with Morrie", soak yourself in the immediate emotion... then let go.... detach yourself (if you need to let go, that is).
Love may be the grandest, happiest feeling.... but it can also be a painful and confusing experience. Immerse yourself in this feeling.... yes, use your heart more often! Live and let live... Love and let it all in! But during lulls, go to your brain.
Your heart and brain work together... not only physiologically, but also in man's interplay with other people's feelings and ways of thinking!
If one is absent... we'll surely DIE!
Hope tis will keep you unbalanced (hehehe....)
Insanely yours,
Aleck
P.S. Pls. send my regards to Princess Lulu and Kim San Soon! :)
posted by alecksky | 1:43 PM
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